Sometimes at the end of a long week I find myself tense and feeling like I’ve been a task-master for days on end — getting them up, dressed, fed, and to school on time. Pick ups, playdates and late afternoon tears followed by dinner, bath & bedtime. I’m exhausted mostly because I haven’t stopped to just PLAY with them. Simple, uninterrupted quality time on the floor just being silly is what feeds my soul and makes me feel closer to them in a deep way. Running a household isn’t conducive to stillness. It requires constant movement, shuffling, ducking and diving. It’s so important to just STOP. Put on the record player with an old album, play Legos, wrestle, draw in a coloring book. Just be a kid again — along side them. That’s where my best relationship-building stems from with my children. When we all feel filled up in that way, there are no power struggles, no melt downs, no disciplining. Just living in the flow and loving each other. Everything else takes care of itself when we’re in that place.
I don’t get much time to sit and read these days but when I do…. These are a few of my favorite Motherhood books, including “Playful Parenting” by Laurence J. Cohen.
- “How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
- “Parenting Without Power Struggles” by Susan Stiffelman
- “Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason” by Alfie Kohn
- “Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves” by Naomi Aldort
- “Simplicity Parenting” by Kim John Payne & Lisa M. Ross